Comments on: Divorce Self Defense 101

By: Dan Jaye

Dan Jaye — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 02:10:47 +0000

Well I wish I read this a week ago after living together for 2 years then a 4 month marrage when I moved into her house with her kids, it was a living hell. We got into an argument This Sunday she called the police they asked me to leave and I was having a few. The police dropped me off at a bar. Went back and got my car for work in the AM, she called the police when I picked up my car and wammm a DUI……How can I swing this around in my favor now. Her attorney has been calling me, to pick up the divorce summons. Claming they are going to file harrassment charges and a restraining order. Help…….

By: Tim

Tim — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 19:47:44 +0000

Has any guy figured out how to hide cash before a divorce?

By: Phil

Phil — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 03:52:14 +0000

Great advice. Boy, sure wish I would have read earlier. Just went through the hanging. You should also add “do not own your own small business and go before the judge.” He literally put me out of business by ruling me to pay 26,000 in 90 days. I know it doesn’t sound like much but when you make on avg 5,600 a month it is a lot. Looks like i’m on my way to jail for a long time with no possible way to pay or even have the judge removed so I can get a fair hanging.

Is there any help out there?

By: Fred

Fred — Mon, 24 Dec 2007 01:38:33 +0000

Great advice. Wish I had read this before my divorce. I was taken to the cleaners. Women can be VERY evil. During my divorce, our kids did not matter to her one bit. All she wanted was the house, retirement, alimony, MONEY, money, and more money. She did not care how she got it, who she hurt in the process, even our kids. Selfishness and narcissism ruled her life. I was married to a monster for 24 years and didn’t even know it. What a wake up call.

By: leftyf

leftyf — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 04:55:26 +0000

Joel

Like the girl in the American Express Commercial

Yes, Yes, and Yes!

You speak the truth.

And guys, it’s true…women only want what is fair…and what they have earned..you know their half.

And as much of your half as they can get…for a minimum of 18 years.

The fair part ? The jury’s still out on that one…
I speak from experience.

By: JBM

JBM — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 23:23:09 +0000

All true, I was played like a cheap fiddle in my divorce. One has to get vicious, and there is no better word. No one else will look after you.

By: TCS

TCS — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 01:30:48 +0000

Great advice! I can attest to the preemption tweak-out If I didn’t know any better, I’d say our author might have his own personal vietnam like the rest of us

By: Curiepoint

Curiepoint — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 13:31:46 +0000

In Jensen’s follow-up post, he speaks of lots of mail from women who are aghast that any man could be so “mean” in dealing with a divorce…the children suffer, they only want what’s fair and the ever-popular not-all-women-are-like-that (yawn…zzzz…).

What he goes on to mention is that all of these tactics were taken from a book intended for women contemplating divorce. Apparently, it’s okay for women to scheme it up like this, but not men.

As far as not all women (blah blah blah), the point is not whether a majority or minority of women would embrace such means or not. The very real point is that society as a whole gives women enough of a pass in their behavior to signify it’s approval of their taking such recourse. Divorce is a legal affair, not an emotional one. Whenever one enters into a court room, they enter a battlefield where it’s fight or die. What’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.

I say that men have been far too nice in taking their lumps in the arenas of public and legal discourse. The tide is turning, and men are beginning to wake up to the reality of their enemies. It’s time, gentlemen…time to begin surviving and meting out our own brand of just and equitable treatment.

By: Joel

Joel — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 12:43:09 +0000

Thanks for the post. You have been through the mill, and that is some expensive sound advice.

Another BIG BIG heads up – I hear about people thinking that marrying a woman from outside the US is going to be different. They are the same species, and if the country they are from is poorer than the US, could it be that they are marrying for money?

The only difference can be that they start scheming at the start of the relationship, or even before.

One more warning – in some countries e.g. Brazil, just living together is enough for you to be shafted, you don’t even have to be married.

By: diz

diz — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 03:58:55 +0000

Jensen, sounds like you got the major shaft from some woman that gives other women a bad name. I got the same treatment from a man who is her twin. I agree with your advice, having gone through the ringer, and it is best employed by either party — which ever is privy to this insight first.