Comments on: Dump The Chump: Why Do Women Divorce?

By: karla

karla — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 09:40:57 +0000

You can fall out of love. Plain and simple. Morally I feel you try to make it work and enjoy the relationship at its diffferent points. The beginning is suppose to feel exhilerating and as it progresses that can change. Enjoy the change for what it brings like the connection you share now as opposed to then (the love, and work put into it) because it isn’t suppose to stay the same as it was. Men do get boring, not to say all women are fun but men… as you get older you do get more boring. Do what you can to try to hold onto a good person and try hard. If you do this and think positive and have a selfless attitude and not a selfish attitude, you usually will progress in that relationship and it has the posssibility to sustain and breathe a renewed life into you and your partner. To the above extremely sexist men that wrote in, you all just found the wrong one. I love my husband, sure he’s boring at times and I can financially make it on my own. I make more then he does. But I love him and I’m in this for the long haul. Sorry bro’s … you just got burned…but I’m sure you didn’t live up to her expectations and FYI when a woman leaves you and you “didn’t know it for years…BS! you did know, you just didn’t care to try anymore, untill she left. Stop blaming women for the fact that you didn’t live up to what you made yourself out to be.

By: togse

togse — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 10:12:03 +0000

hello,

a considerable percentage of ppl are simply “boring”. they’ll get what they deserve as a result. thats all you need to know in this world. whether it is dating or in business.

By: OzCynic

OzCynic — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 13:38:04 +0000

Ann is being very honest when she writes:

The only thing it seems we can rely on men for is money

Let’s slightly rephrase that to:

The only thing we [women want] men for is money.

I agree.

Girls: LISTEN to yourselves, will ya? After all we men have to, so this is the age of equality, start listening to yourselves.

ANY relationship is about inequality. ALL relationships are about inequality. If that person whom you are in a relationship with is not your exact carbon-copy clone, then that person will be able to do things you cannot, and you’ll be able to do thing THEY cannot.

WHOOP-DE-F##KING-DO.

Isn’t that why you went into a relationship in the first place? Because that other person supplied something (money, in the case of a male) you might not be able to supply? Companionship, (Heaven forbid!) perhaps?

Think about this demand for equality – it means everything and everyone exactly the same. That’s utter RUBBISH. Every person is different (gasp, startling discovery, there!) and that means DIFFERENCE. Difference means “not equal”.

The problem with women is they want to separate the responsibility from the power – the power to do as they please to whomever they like without responsibility for their actions. As for the clueless narcissists like Ann….HECK, what would you rather your hubby do? BEAT YOU EVERY NIGHT? Spend every cent of his paycheque down at the local bar while eyeing off barmaids?

By: ronnie

ronnie — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 15:32:31 +0000

I agree with Felix above. It is simply far to easy for women to walk away with really nothing to lose, and lots to gain, if “chump” is the sole bread-winner.

There needs to be a change – make it harder to divorce – more to lose for the individual.

By: Curiepoint

Curiepoint — Sat, 29 Dec 2007 14:18:59 +0000

No, but more than 50% do divorce.

Of those, it’s the wife who files 2/3 of the time.

Of those, it’s under the aegis of No Fault”. That is to say: “He doesn’t thrill and delight me like the trained seal he is. I’m bored Wah Wah Wah…”

They don’t start off hating the husband, but with some cajolling from her lawyer, she will work up a good mad at him, and then parlay that into unspeakable horrors and degradations perpetrated at his hands.

Since it is more and more legal and acceptable for a wife to murder her husband outright, maybe she can just cut out the middle-man and instead of buying a lawyer, she can just purchase ammo and a weapon.

By: Amber

Amber — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 20:59:16 +0000

I think we’re missing the underlying issue here. Did anyone ever stop to think that people are getting married without truly being “in love”? First of all, if you’re unhappy in a relationship, you don’t really love the person. If you can’t find happiness on your own, you don’t love yourself… you’re living in despair (hell on Earth). Self-love is the foundation of every kind of love there is. So, it seems many of the issues are a product of self-hate, which women are so obviously and annoyingly guilty of.

Secondly, habit is a problem that ruins relationships. Do the same damn thing over and over again, you’ll get bored. Worst of all, you’ll start taking the person/people you love for granted. What’s more, the kind of “love” we swear to have for each other forever, isn’t the kind of love you want to swear by at all. Erotic (spontaneous) love fades because we “love” the person based on qualities that aren’t lasting. Try loving the person based on their soul (if people even believe there are such things anymore).

Thirdly, I will begrudgingly (only because I’m a woman and I have an obvious bias) admit that women don’t seem to hold loyalty and faithfulness as dear to their hearts as men, which is incredibly ironic. Ironic because as women, we expect our significant others to be faithful through and through. So much as ogle another woman and the accusations start flying… we’re so damn embarrassingly jealous it makes me sick. As soon as our love lives are consumed with habit or as soon as we being to see “he isn’t the man we fell in love with,” we’re gone. Where’s the loyalty, ladies? Women who commit this act of disloyalty are unethical… if you define being ethical as being virtuous, that is. Being a faithful person, being a loyal person makes you virtuous. Seriously, if you think what I’m about to say is stupid for any reason, there’s something wrong with you — Being faithful is important. DON’T just get up and leave the people in your life behind just because you FEEL a different way. It’s completely selfish if you think that’s an okay thing to do. As was said before, you are responsible for your own happiness

By: leftyf

leftyf — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 05:28:01 +0000

Tell me guys…any of you ever heard this one?

Mi Mi Mi…going into shrill screaming female voice:

MY GAWD HOW YOU HAVE CHANGED!!

Changed? Me? Probably…but, ya know it takes women like that to make men like me. I wasn’t born like this… you molded me into the man you see here today.

Happy now? I’ve become everything you said you never wanted…and I had all the help in the world.

And, remember boys…this is my personal fave, “Do the right thing, set me free .

By: CSavage

CSavage — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 05:00:26 +0000

This site is soooo stereotypical. What about the wife who gave 20 years and thought that their husband walked on water? I did instigate the divorce after finding the so-called “love-of-my-life” in bed with the another piece of garbage after 20 years of marriage. After he turned 45 he decided he had missed out on life and that I should sit in the wings and wait until he got it all out of his system. No thanks…..too many diseases to catch from his fun and a slap in the face to my self-esteem. I left with my clothes and the dogs. Am I the scum-of-the-earth? I am a professional and could make my own living, but needed my pride to remain intact. So, he got the house, the furniture and everything else. We aren’t all selfish demons. Some of us are victims too….don’t forget that.

I’ve been alone for 5 years now and will not go down the marriage path again. I think that everyone is capable of selfish behavior and I don’t care to be in the wake of such selfishness.

By: Luna

Luna — Sun, 25 Nov 2007 20:11:03 +0000

I almost completely agree with ncr. Sometimes, love just doesn’t work. it’s not that she’s not happy, it’s that as time has gone by, she realized that he isn’t… there’s a certain quality every human looks for in love. sometimes it fades away, sometimes it remains. As I read through this entire article I noticed there is no mention of people like my mother, who has remained happily married to my father. In fact, my FATHER was the one who divorced a woman before he married my mother, and my mother never married anyone but him. They are both still in love after 34 years of marriage – not all women are out to steal your money. Actually, when I was younger and my mother was working along with my father, my mother earning not too much less than him, every time one of them bought something, I was to thank my father. Why? He only did it half the time. Every time something good happened to the family financially,. even if my mother achieved it, I was to thank my father or he’d be upset. Why? He was looking for a thank you that was not deserved.

I do not hate my father. I love him, and my mother. I just want to point out that it’s not always the woman’s fault, it’s not always the man’s fault, and not every couple divorces.

By: Clare

Clare — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 20:33:41 +0000

Wow.

Just. Wow.

That wow is not pointed at the men, by the way.