Though I strongly agree that *** is fun, have it all you want. I myself am a woman, and hate all this materialism that is associated with women. Why? Because a bunch of materialistic girls make other girls materialistic. Only few are left as NORMALCY that still want love, ***, the whole shebang.

If there’s a problem in a marriage, fix it, damn it. Don’t hold back on ***!

But be fair – research. Take in women’s biology as well as men’s. Don’t be so one-sided. Wikipedia is neutral, and it’s the best website for information. Consider that idea.

It doesn’t sound like you are doing anything wrong, but have you asked your boyfriend the same question? Take your own advice and communicate your thoughts to him.

Editor’s note: Post is as-is, unedited.

“terse phraseology”, is just a small example of the point I was trying to make earlier. However, you are correct in my saying, “Yeah, whatever.” I was not arguing. I was just stating a fact as I saw it. Your reply was too long and boring. I got tired of reading it. I apologize for my bluntness.

“Yeah, whatever.”

The statement you just made was too long and drawn out. You lost my attention towards the second paragraph. I am sorry to say that you did not impress anyone but yourself.

The main fallacy is that you attribute our attitudes to our being directly hurt by women, and nothing more. While all of us probably have had this misfortune, our attitudes are based also on our observance of the world around us. What happens to our brothers, fathers, collegues and friends also colors our world-view. So too does a keen observance of how the institutions of law, marriage, and relationships are envisioned and deployed amongst society. Most marriages are dissolved at the behest of women who feel justified through their sense of entitlement to personal satisfaction. Laws are enacted and enforced on a daily basis that automatically criminialize or at least marginalize men. Relationships…well, it wasn’t a man that derived the standard of the-personal-is-the-political.

Contrary to what you may believe, we men can and do make our personal assessments based upon experience, observation, and provable knowledge. It isn’t all about our feelings being hurt. It is all a matter of survival. We men may be taking a dim view of what life serves up in intimate involvement, but then again we will survive more or less intact as a result. You can’t lose if you don’t play a rigged game, and you can win by playing a game of one’s own choosing.

As far as *** being a release valve, it is often true that this is a perceived effect, and that goes for women as well as men. But, if it were strictly that and nothing more, we could just as easily rub one out on our own, or bring in a hired gun to take care of it for us, and be perfectly content with this. That is to say, there would be no need for the anger and resentment that we feel. The sense of intimacy and love is highly prized amongst us poor troglodyte men despite what you may believe our motivations to be. When that is rendered down into a tool to manipulate us into doing something that you want, or reduced to the proportions of it being one more unpleasant duty to perform, it isn’t us men who are devaluing intimacy, it’s women; specifically, it’s wives.

We don’t turn our backs on women as a whole. We look to other places where women have no interest in competing with us on personal terrain. We seek women who will respond favorably to those acts of kindness genuinely offered without thinking it a sign of dishonesty or wimpishness. Alternatively, we live our own lives according to our needs first, and others’ second without the diminishing return that is marriage and relationship. Once again, we will keep ourselves alive and intact whichever way we choose to go.

Perhaps it’s the plain fact that we men actually do have choices that bothers you more than our so-called negativity?