The only thing I would change with the above opinions is to seek legal council FIRST, then the ultimatum… That way, if she gives you the routine (we all know what that is), you are prepared.

Sounds crass and defeating but shoot, look at where you are at now?

Prayers my friend.

The co-workers are not better than you. Only if you allow them or your non-wife to take that position will you be cast in that light. I say don’t let them do that to you.

By what you say, I have to wonder why she agreed to marriage in the first place. She doesn’t give a c**p about you or how you feel, and it’s all about her feelings. In a committed relationship, it is not wrong to expect that one’s partner confer special consideration onto the other in a way that they do not with anyone else; any and all resistance to that is a pure indicator that one does not matter in the least. That is what is happening with you.

I know you love her, but she clearly is more concerned about cheeking it up with other men than giving creedence to anything you might feel. Her boss is probably encouraging her in all of this, as it would hurt your marriage and the company can monopolize her time and energy without conscience.

I’m sorry to say thus, dude…but be prepared to find out about her cheating on you with one of these sleaze-b***s. If your feelings can be cast aside without discussion or acknowledgement, she will have no compunction to really run roughshod over you. I suggest strongly that you give her an ultimatum to sit down and talk about all of this. If she refuses, tell her that she just made a huge mistake, and it will cost her dearly. Talk to a lawyer, and let her know that you are.

Don’t let her do this to you. Assert yourself and defend your emotional well-being. You needn’t give up entirely on the marriage, but if you let things go the way they are, it will come to an end without your input. If it ends anyway, then make it a situation where you have equal control in the decision. Gather some support around you in the form of friends and family…it sounds like you’re gonna need them.

I did, however, not big a big fuss of Valentine’s Day this year. I actually made her a card, and did not buy a gift because I was too busy working.

For Valentine’s Day, I received, from her, a 30G Ipod, a card, flowers, and no complaints. It was one of the most surprising and sweet presents I have eve received from a parter, because of the thought, and because it was completely unexpected.

We’ve treated each other often, I would bring home flowers, alcohol, sweets, and she would do the same (I happen to like flowers). We both enjoy beer and wine. We both enjoy eating out. When we went on a quick getway to St. Augustine, FL, she paid for the rooms (we ended up staying an extra night)!

She was unemployed for a while, during which time I took care of luxuries for her (our relationship had not moved towards cohabiting at that point). Now we do live together, I am unfortunately unemployed, and she is working.

I find this site very interesting, with some valid viewpoints. I do feel, however, that reacting to what the “feminazi’s” are putting out in the same spirit as their attacks is not quite what is needed.

Both my partner and I have previously been unhappily married. We attribute the positive state of our relationship together to learning more about ourselves and others from those experiences.

Is it perfect? Far from it. It does take work, on both sides, which is ultimately what we need. Individuals need to take personal responsibility for happiness, regardless of s*x or gender, and if you can pursue those agendas with someone who’s lifestyle and personality compliments yours, and enriches it, then it’s a rare and beautiful thing.

Men and women needs to stop pointing fingers at each other, to stop expecting and demanding “happiness” from each other. Truly treat others as you wish to be treated, but expect nothing.

The Culture of Scapegoating needs to come to an end, in all aspects of life and society. I really wish it could happen, but thats the optimist within me.

I am constantly taking a back seat to her Professional co-workers. Thats all she ever talks about. I even found a picture with her and a male co-worker cheek to cheek at some buisness trip that her female boss had in her personal pictures. When I saw this picture and asked who this close friend was, her response was quite irritated “I am just a friendly outgoing person and that is how I express myself, what is the big deal”

Should I feel that these co-workers are better than me!

She just doesnt get it when I question her on these issues.

I Give Up!

It was a second marriage. She ordered a nice floor length dress from J.C.Penney’s. When it came, it had a bad seam. She didn’t have time to exchange it, so she tacked that seam, and we got married.

After the wedding, she concluded she didn’t want to keep a dress that was defective. And, she didn’t want to exchange it and keep a dress she didn’t wear to get married in.

So, she sent the dress back and got her money back. Hey, this really happened. I’m not making it up.

On Valentine’s day, we do a hat trick of some sort. The best things in life are free.

Sorry to rub it in, guys. But, foreign wives are the best, if you are smarter than a rock.

Of course, you’re not like that. You don’t understand what is being said here and invidual actions don’t make up for the failure of the SYSTEM.

So to put it succinctly, most men reading this could give two s***s about your personal anecdotes about how you aren’t like that when we know that you are entitled to be like that due to the corruption in our government, family courts and culture.

Being single rocks. (I don’t watch much TV either, so no stupid commercials for me!)