Notice how women here are saying “if men die sooner, it’s your own fault, and your responsibility to fix it.” I’ll say this again – attempts to have it addressed in congress have met with opposition from women’s organizations. We’ve been trying, but we don’t get the favorable press coverage that “save teh boobeez” campaigns do.

In 2006 alone, our government “granted” (gave) foreign countries: 28.16 Million dollars for cancer research. No stipulations or explanations as to where it actually went. Nice to know we have that sort of cash to just give away for…well… who knows?

In 2005, an additional $2.9 million was received by the NCI from the US Postal Service’s sale of the Breast Cancer Stamp. This is not calculated in the total dollar amount of breast cancer monies.

In 2006, an additional $6.9 million was received by the NCI from the US Postal Service’s sale of the Breast Cancer Stamp. This is not calculated in the total dollar amount of breast cancer monies.

Oh, and the numbers for breast cancer do not cite the number of cases of male breast cancer, which accounts for 1% of the mortality due to breast cancer. Um, there’s no females with prostate cancer.

Erectile disfunction treatment is a for-profit industry. I would imagine if the men who are buying these pills didn’t have someone equally interested in the results, there wouldn’t be so many sales of it. However, Viagra and the like are not live saving medications and proceedures funded by federal grants and programs.

Men *die* of suicide at 4 to 5 times the rate of women. Most of these are post divorce men who have lost their families. Could be there’s something wrong, here. Suicide is the 8th leading cause for death for US men, rising as we age. r**e of men and domestic violence against men is grossly under reported, punishment of perpetrators is even more rare, with significantly higher stigmas for male victims.

There’s a womenshealth.gov, run by the US department of Health and Human Services. There is not a menshealth.gov

(Cancer, no matter what the source, is awful. I don’t mean to diminish anyone’s suffering. My heart goes out to anyone suffering, and their families)

For what it’s worth, I’m a custodial dad. My ex was a stay at home alcoholic who greeted me at the door everyday with more grief and stress. Even considering the cost of daycare, which is huge, I’m still able to live within my means, generate 1/5th of the trash (with two kids)

Given all of the grief that my ex caused through years of divorce proceedings and 2 post divorce suits, I can say with certainty that I will NEVER put myself in that situation again.

Anyone man who gets married in this legal and social climate is an idiot. Please, learn from my experience, and stay the hell away from it. Beg and plead big pharma for a male birth control pill, and if you’re in your 40′s, for god’s sake, get a vasectomy. Please write your congressmen to reform child custody practices and child support obligations. End Alimony! There’s a tough road ahead, since the state has a financial interest in perpetuating the problem.

I know there are women out there who’ve made a good faith investment in their families, in whatever capacity they can. I’m genuinely happy for you. I know there are women who have done the same, only to have the rug yanked out from them. I’m sorry, I would have loved to have been in such a relationship and honor that committment, no matter what the devision of labor. I’ve been burned twice now, and there will not be a third time.

I am a wife and mother, who’s main focus is raising our children and loving my husband – who happens to be a total bad-a*s and KNOWS it because I make sure he feels like a damn king around here. Clean beautiful home, lots of wine and good food, happy clean children who adore him, and a best friend and lover always there to encourage and empower him…..simply returning the favor he lovingly shows me.

Men and women are better together….but they have to believe in each other and take care of each other.

Big hugs and kissed from a man-loving woman xoxoxoxoxo

I have told him that I need a little more attention from him outside the bedroom. He doesn’t think it is necessary and says that I am withholding s*x from him. We never go out and have fun as a couple or a family, because he is usually too busy working. In my mind, his lack of respect, loyalty and commitment to me and our kids are a complete turn off.

Sure, it’s possible that women love the men they’re with. It’s also possible that an asteroid will strike the Earth and cause another mass extinction. After all, it happened once before in the Chixulub impact 65 million years ago, so it could happen again. It just doesn’t seem terribly probable. The bottom line is that people can proclaim love (indeed, proclaim anything) from now until the end of time, but words mean nothing. What counts are actions. I never believe what people say to a greater extent than what they do. My observations are admittedly skewed to one side, but they are my observations, and they are what direct my actions and beliefs.

No need to interrupt your graduate work for my benefit. Good luck on your thesis.

Dead-on with your observation about both genders having their faults. I have never denied this. But what happens when half of the population (individuals all I am sure), find themselves living a life whereby they have never had it so good in all of human history, and yet still decry their victimhood at the expense of the other half?

In a word, resentment.
In another, defiance.

Why get so worked up, Amanda? So what if I turn my back on women and consider them not worth the effort anymore? They can go along their merry ways, and I shall go mine, both of us unassailed from either side of the gender divide. Just as long as they stay away from my house, my land, and my life…everyone will be just fine. I’ve worked to damned hard to see even the slightest possibility of it vaporizing out of my hands and into a woman’s.

– Amanda

Entirely true. Still, the myth that men did women wrong for most of history is so pervasive that it has to be corrected.

I am sick of hearing it used against men while:

1) what men long dead did is no fault of today’s men and while

2) it is not in the slightest true.

You assume that women only want their husbands around because they “have the money”. Men are NOT always the breadwinners, and for God’s sake, WOMEN DO LOVE THE MEN THEIR WITH. It is possible, I promise you. You need to step out and realize that most wives/girlfriends love their husbands/boyfriends. I love mine. And he’s a poor teacher…..::GASP::

BTW–I told you I got the info about married men being happier and healthier in a University class, NOT Cosmo, thanks. If you REALLY want a reference I can try to find it but that would be a pain… I don’t really feel that this is worth it, I have grad school work I need to get done.

People of both sexes have their faults. I just wish everyone would stop generalizing people. Try a libertarian viewpoint and see people as individuals – not members of groups.

Save me your pity. I have no use for it.

Amanda: I have NEVER seen an ad about testicular cancer or prostate cancer framed in terms of how it will affect women.

I don’t know what media you subscribe to, but I’ve seen nothing else. How about the ad with the guy walking around with his wife on his back, literally? Or printed ads in Men’s Health Magazine that is comprised of a matrix of women’s pictures, each one captioned with “I have prostate cancer”?

Amanda: What about all the frikin ED research and the penile enlargement stuff

ED was never “researched”. The treatments for it fell out of a correlation between certain Blood Pressure medications and a side effect of spontaneous erection; the same meds that are given to women, BTW. Moreover, ED is indicative of a more serious medical condition, so while ED itself isn’t as important, the cause usually is. As to penile enlargement, you cannot be serious. All of those ads for penile enlargement are not the result of bona-fide medical research. It’s all snake oil and marketing. By the way…these ads are exclusively put forward in terms of “do it for her”.

Amanda: I assume you are saying more than women die of cervical, breast or ovarian cancer

Why assume that? Why do men have to die in greater numbers than women for it to be taken seriously? As it happens, the numbers of men who die of prostate or testicular cancer are slightly less than women; by slightly, we are talking about 50,000 less per year. Yet the amount of money spent on breast and ovarian cancer research gets pretty close to a billion dollars. For men: about one-eight that much.

Amanda: many married women encourage this

Sure…can’t pay the mortgage without the walking ATM…I mean…husband around.

Amanda: married men are happier and healthier

As stated by such scholarly journals as Cosmo and Woman’s Day magazines.

Amanda: heart attacks and heart disease symptoms and treatment were based on a male model.

Point made and understood.

Amanda: WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU?

Lots of stuff. That’s life, and it’s lessons are not lost on a wise person.

Amanda: your mothers would be ashamed of you

I personally couldn’t care less about the opinion of someone who nagged and demanded a man into a much earlier grave. Not a kind word from her while he was alive, but not that he’s gone, he’s some kind of saint.