Ah yes, women “can have it all” but we mere males are “spoiled”…. thanks for clarifying that for us..

What I try to do is work, be a mom and a good girlfriend. I try to make sure that my sons see me show my man affection. (teach them women are supposed to love them, not just annoy them). I do the best I can with the house and such and my guy helps me. I don’t nag for it because that just doesn’t work. He knows that I will not take care of it all on my own because that is not fair weather or not I am a female. (you wouldn’t put up with it out of a roomate, now would you?) But, I do make a special effort at doing the “woman things” and taking care of him. A special effort to make his life easier so he feels loved and secure. Isn’t that what you are supposed to do for those you love? (he does it back too because if he didn’t I would be wasting my time and thus move on) I ask him to do the less gender specific, less complicated things just to help me along. And as far as being a mom…I try to teach my boys how to be balanced men. How to be tough yet sensitive. I tell them that if a guy hits them to pummel the **** out of them, that if a girl hits him once to let her slide the first time but after that she’s fair game as well. I teach them to pick up after themselves because there is no use in being a slob. I teach them to strive for knowledge and that being happy is the number one goal in life. Yes, I do encourage them in sports, in video games, in school, but most of all in their peer settings. How to deal with other people. It’s best we concentrate on how we all get along instead of how we all get ahead of each other. That’s up to the individual drive I think.

You just described my ex-wife, who 10 years after our divorce (at her insistence) has yet to meet a satisfactory man or have any children. Raised as a “princess” and bent on a professional career, no man was good enough. It was the same story with her first husband, who lasted just a little longer than I did. She’s in her mid-40’s now. Plenty of education, money, and travel experience, but no family and no prospects–living alone in a white condo-box with her cats. One of the most selfish people I’ve ever met.

With my eyes now open, there’s no way in hell I would marry or even date a typical Western women from the US, Canada, Australia, Scandinavia, etc. I’m not saying they are all bad, but the risk of a miserable outcome is just too high.

In contrast, my girlfriend, born and raised in Mexico, is delightful and compassionate. After seven years, there’s never been a real argument, and we still hold hands walking down the street. For me, traditional women that have not been poisoned by feminism and media influences are the only way to go. For you younger guys out there, all I have to say is forget about these selfish gringas, just walk away, you can do MUCH better elsewhere, such as Mexico or Latin America. Good luck!

Ahhhhh….but that’s a whole other issue, isn’t it? Let mom do all the work and let mom take alllll the responsibility for how her kids turn out.

Peh…this is a created bias on a personal issue.

I feel my mother has tried to live her own unsuccessful life through me, I’ve had all the “You need to get a career first, forget men, they’re not worth it!” blah blah blah! It’s all a load of tosh! My Mum has not succeeded in her quest, however I think there are a lot of mothers out there, that have.

Women are sometimes failing as they are trying to do everything (Jack of all trades, master of none!) and I feel that the men get alot of **** because of it. We’re unhappy with our own failures and we take it out on them. I have however, got to fight the corner where my ’sisters’ are concerned. I for one, don’t care for money and what a man has in his **** pocket! I feel that many women are now seriously realizing (through their own mothers’ mistakes) that its a blessing to be ‘just’ a mother, lover and a friend and that the most simple and best things in life are free!