As for me, I was married once to a man who had all five undesireable sick traits Dr. Marshall speaks of: But “I wrote the book on Dedicated and Devoted” and he finally almost sucked me in with him when he checked out of this world from a booze habit at the age of 52. Personally, I think most of you men who wrote in such negative letters about women, are a bunch of “sick puppies” who have fallen for the morals and values that Hollywood and the “boob tube” has visited upon us and many of the women today certainly aren’t any better. If you were clean of character and aspirations and searched for a girl with the same values, you might have found “your soul mate” by now instead of sitting on the sidelines bitching about your sad lot in life.

I think there still are some good ones out there of both sexes and my best advice would be to get back to moral basics and moral values and if you find “a good one, ” value and cherish her/him and continue to work on the relationship, never taking them for granted. In hindsight, I wish I had never married husband number one. I have been with husband number 2, twenty two years now and we still work on the relationship together, lovingly and caringly. There is never room for “cheating” or “just getting by.” Don’t even think about it. My mother taught me early on: “The truth will find you out.” When you lose her because you couldn’t control the thinking with “your little head,” you will finally know what you had and what you did not value.

If you are a Christian, get back to Christian values of basic honesty, Christian chastity in thought as well as deed, and do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Most guys expect to apply the old double standard and get away with it. Remember it takes two to tango. The bible says “As a man thinketh, so is he.” If you are always leering and lusting after other women, your wife/girl friend is on to you and don’t think she isn’t. In turn then, she takes your que and wants to be noticed by other men. You both need to stop it and concentrate on each other. Again, if you are a Christian, read 2nd Timothy. Those are these days.

>Reason 9: They want to own a home before they consider getting a wife.

Sorry, but this is exactly what an unintelligent guy would do. Why? Because in most cases, it is SOP (standard operating procedure) for the woman to get the house during the divorce. Why would any intelligent man, in this day and age, go into a marriage with equity in a house that will in all likelihood become hers in most cases of divorce, especially considering that most marriages end this way. And about 70% of second marriages end with divorce?

Editor’s Comment: Marla is a real winner eh?…

I think it reasonable to assume that nothing lasts forever, not even marriage. Material possessions however…well, they won’t last forever either, but they will likely last longer than a typical American marriage. As far as dying alone is concerned, everyone dies alone. It doesn’t matter whether one is married or not, when the reaper calls, he only wants one of you.

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This should do very nicely to illustrate how wives truly feel when their hubbies kick before them. Just look at all the support she gets for prizing his death over his life.

As to what women expect out of any given situation, that is not men’s responsibility ever. If she expects more than what she is getting and it’s intolerable to her, all she need do is leave.